Wednesday, December 30, 2009
Oh Christmas.
Tuesday, December 15, 2009
A Changed Perspective
Saturday, December 12, 2009
Finally Settling In
Tuesday, December 1, 2009
A Chinese Thanksgiving
Wednesday, November 25, 2009
A Night Out
Tuesday, November 24, 2009
Some Common Myths Debunked
Myth #1: All people in China wear pointy bamboo hats.
Sunday, November 15, 2009
Student Spotlight
Wednesday, November 11, 2009
You Are Not Alone
Monday, November 2, 2009
I'm a Local
Thursday, October 29, 2009
A Recap
We have now been in China for 19 days. We have had too many adventures during these 2 1/2 weeks to record them all here. I will try to hit the high points.
After spending a night in Shanghai, we arrived at our apartment in Hangzhou Friday night. When I woke up Saturday morning, it took me a few minutes to realize where I was. And when I did realize where I was, I kept thinking, “This is crazy. What am I doing here?” Although there are days when I still think that, I have started to feel at home here. That first Saturday, we walked down to the supermarket. At the time, it seemed like it was about 5 miles - about as much as I would walk in maybe 2 weeks in the U.S. I had major blisters and was not really all that excited to be in China. Now that we have been here for a few weeks, that walk to the supermarket seems like nothing. Maybe we are getting in better shape. Maybe it just seems that way because we have to walk everywhere, and we’ve covered longer distances than that. Or maybe we’re just getting used to it. Our apartment is on the 6th floor. There is no elevator. That’s 106 steps - we counted. I used to get winded on the 2nd floor. Now I can make it all the way to the 4th floor before getting winded. In short, we are adjusting to life in China.
Many of our adventures tend to take place in the supermarket. That is where I had my first glimpse at culture shock. We live in a city with about 7 million other people, so the supermarket gets pretty crowded. But somehow, among all the pushing and shoving, I still noticed the live turtles, struggling in plastic bags, trying to escape their doom of becoming dinner. We have thought about starting a ‘Save the Turtles’ operation here, but I fear that even if we set them free, someone would be all to happy to find free dinner passing them by on the streets. We also came across a display of Lays potato chips. I thought, “Oh good, a little taste of home.” But the Lays here are a little different than those back in the good ol’ U.S.of A. Our choices were cucumber, kiwi, or blueberry. We were feeling adventurous, so we decided to give the blueberry flavored Lays a try. When we got back to the apartment and worked up the nerve, we counted to 3 and went for it at the same time. After about 1.2 seconds, we were both reaching for a drink to get the taste out of our mouths. Lesson #1 from China: Blueberries and potato chips don’t mix.
Oh The Adventures of Teaching...
Thursday, October 1, 2009
I have now completed my first full week of classes. And, thankfully, have a week of holiday to recover! I teach 6 classes. On Tuesdays, I teach 2 Business English classes for senior economics majors (one of these is pictured above). On Thursdays and Fridays, I ride a shuttle bus to our other campus (1 hour ride from the campus where we live). I have 2 classes on each of those days - all Oral English for freshman English majors.
My seniors are not the best English students, but we’re getting used to each other. They were my first class, and we have actually met 3 times. Sophomores, Juniors, and Seniors all begin classes one week before the Freshman. Our first class meeting was quite an adventure. Because they are economics majors, they haven’t had as much practice with their English, so I...have...to...talk...very...slowly. During the first class, I introduced myself and told about my family and my hometown (Memphis). Next, we went over the class rules. I told them that if they obeyed the rules, we would be friends and have a good time in class. If they do not obey the rules, they will make me very sad, and I would have to make them very sad. They were terrified of me. I don’t think anyone has ever been terrified of me in my entire life! I’ve got to admit, that was a little thrilling! For the rest of class, I gave them an opportunity to introduce themselves to me. They had to tell me 5 things: 1)Their Chinese name, 2)Their English name, 3)Their hometown, 4)What their hometown is famous for (every town is famous for something around here), and 5)If they could visit anywhere in the world, where would the go and why. While they were working on their answers, I went around the room to help those who didn’t already have one, come up with an English name. I made a list of names they could choose from- you know, good English names like Monica, Rachel, Phoebe and Kate, Juliet, Claire, Sawyer, Charlie, and Jack. Their introductions went over without much hitch. They had no problem telling me what their hometowns were “famurs” for, and if they could visit anywhere in the world, most chose Paris because it is so “romantica.”
But if I’m allowed to have favorites, I would have to say it’s my freshmen classes. They are English majors, so their English is much better. And, who wouldn’t like a class that gasps as soon as you walk into the room and mumbles to one another “how beautiful!” It has a certain affect on the self-esteem. They also tend to be more respectful. I also like these classes because they are only 2 40-minute periods, rather than the 3 40-minute periods for my senior classes. We had the same class format for my Oral English classes. I introduced myself and the class, and then gave them a chance to introduce themselves. It went really well. And after classes were over, half the class would line up to have their picture taken with me!
Now I’m grateful to have a week off. Today is China’s National Day. This year they celebrate 60 years since the founding of the People’s Republic. October 4th is the Mid-Autumn Mood Festival. So to celebrate both holidays, the government has given us October 1-8 as a national holiday. We plan to visit Shanghai for a few days. And then we will travel by bus to Nanjing, to visit some museums and tour the city. I’ll let you know how it goes!
Tuesday, October 27, 2009
Hello From China
Tuesday, August 25, 2009
Goodbye U.S. of A
Friday, July 24, 2009
A Loving Farewell to Agape
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
I Can Officially Make It Public!
Another view of the campus
The beautiful West Lake - major attraction in Hangzhou
Hangzhou cityscape
Saturday, June 13, 2009
I Have a Sister!!
Wednesday, June 10, 2009
The Lessons I've Learned from "Thugs"
When I first told people in Nashville that we were moving to Memphis, they were quick to warn me of the danger & crime, and even added some scary stories to the mix. So Michael and I decided to live in Cordova - close to Memphis housing prices, but "farther away from Memphis crime." Ha. There are so many things I could say about this, but I'll leave it to another blog post. For the record, I have never felt threatened during our time here in Memphis, and I have learned a lot of lessons about stereotyping and judging people prematurely.
I have been humbled during the last two days by the things I have seen and the lessons I have learned from so called "thugs." I have been taught by my culture that young, black men that wear their pants low and wear do-rags in their hair are bad people and most likely members of a gang. I have been taught to be leary and even fearful of them. Well, they have taught me something completely different.
Last night, Michael and I went out on one of our weekly date nights. We went to a nice Thai restaurant, to the discount movie theater, and then headed over to tcby for some ice cream. We didn't arrive at tcby until around 9:45PM. There was a pizza place next door. As we were getting out of the car, a "thug" came out of the pizza place. If I had been listening to my culture, I would have been "watching my back." But before I had time to register this, this young man humbled me. A white, middle-class woman was walking into the pizza place. She was out of the normal range that manners (at least in the south) would require someone to hold the door for her. In fact, this young man was already out the door and out on the sidewalk. When he saw her approaching, he turned and walked back to the door to open it for her.
Lesson #1: Don't judge by appearance and don't stereotype!
I'll just leave it at that... I think you know where I'm going here. On to lesson 2.
Often, especially in during these hard economic times, I will pass a homeless person on the side of the road while on my way to work. I always feel guilty that I "don't have anything to give them." I will usually say a prayer for them and in this way satisfy my conscience. Besides, I have been taught by my culture that if I give them money, they will just use it on drugs and alcohol. They need to go get a job! This morning on my way to work, I was approaching an intersection. I saw the homeless man with his sign standing on the corner. As I said a prayer and began to divert my eyes, something caught my attention. The car in front of me was stopping. The driver was a young black male wearing a do-rag (another "thug"). He rolled down his window, shook the man's hand, and handed him a wad of cash. Not that it should matter, but the homeless man was a white man, probably in his late 30's.
Lesson #2: Love is not words, but action
So many of us call ourselves Christians, but who are we really? We sit in our expensive church buildings with our middle-class neighbors, feeling comfortable in our pews. We don't drink, we don't cuss, we don't lie. But do we love? Do we obey? We pass homeless people on the side of the road and think we are doing what God wants us to do by not giving them money (to spend on their drugs and booze). But we are not told to decide who deserves our love and generosity. God told one man, to sell all that he had and give it to the poor. This "thug" probably didn't have much himself. But he gave what he had to someone in need, without discretion.
"Little children, let us not love in word or talk, but in deed and in truth." 1 John 3:18
Let's start truly obeying what Jesus says (all of it!!!) and glorifying him by loving (=serving) others, without discretion!!
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
Here's To You, Becca
But it has happened. Rebecca Harp. The only girl who I would ever approve of for my big brother.
I think that she will be more like a sister than a sister-in-law, really. She already is. She constantly makes me laugh. She inspires me to be a better person. She's just down right cool! So here's to you, Becca, the newest member of our family! I love you and I'm so excited to be your sister!
Thursday, April 30, 2009
Think Positive
We have had a tough couple of weeks at work. We contract with a state-funded program that works with adoptive families. Due to the economy (I know, I'm sick of hearing about it, too), the state took some cuts. Due to the cuts in the state, we took a 15% cut. So for the past two weeks, we have known that one or more of us would have to be laid off... we were just waiting for the official word. Tuesday morning, we were all called in to the conference room, where our director let us know who had been let go - one of our therapists, Christie. Someone in our Jackson office had to be laid off as well. (Please keep Christie and Jason in your prayers). Although it was a relief to know that I would be able to keep my job, it is difficult to see a co-worker have to go through something like that. There are few words that can be said to bring comfort and encouragement. Morale is low and the office is pretty depressing. So I go home and turn on the TV to try to find some relief and take my mind off things... but that doesn't really work. I used to enjoy watching the news... now it is more depressing than ever. I feel like I'm being bombarded by negativity. It is affecting my thoughts and actions, and at times I feel like I'm drowning in bitterness. But in all reality, we still live in the wealthiest country in the world. We, and more to the point, I have so many things to be thankful for. I have seen some people do this on their blog, and I'm going to steal it... in an effort to ward off the bitterness and negativity, I am going to think of ten things that I am thankful for today:
- I woke up this morning in good health.
- I woke up this morning with my husband laying by my side, which means he made it through another night of work safely.
- I woke up in a bed in a home with air conditioning... 3 things that a huge number of people in this world do not have and will never have.
- I had a car to drive to work this morning.
- God has blessed me with a job through which He provides for Michael and me financially.
- I received an encouraging facebook message this morning from a friend who probably debated on whether or not to even say anything - it has helped me to find strength to get through the day.
- Even though I forgot to pack my lunch this morning, I still found something to eat at the office, and I have never had to miss a meal because I could not afford food.
- Spring is here and it is finally warm outside. I love when it is warm outside.
- My husband and my dog make me laugh ever day... they are two of my greatest blessings.
- God had forgiven my sins, and no matter how bad things may get, I know that this world is not all there is. I have something awesome to look forward to!
Okay, I wasn't sure that would work, but finding 10 things to be thankful for was pretty easy... and I actually do feel a lot better!! I hope that, even when you are having a bad day, you take time to count the blessings that God has put in your life!
Tuesday, April 28, 2009
The American Dream
Michael and I plan to move to Asia to do mission work in January 2014. It seems like forever, but there is much to be done and we are trying to be patient. Before we even got married, we came to terms with the fact that we may never own a house. It didn't seem so bad a few years ago when we were just getting out of college, and all of our friends were living in apartments and working temporary jobs like us.... it's gotten a little harder to swallow in the past year. Now our friends are getting married, settling down, starting careers, buying houses, and starting their families. And we're still waiting. I was having a really tough time with this, so Michael and I decided to sit down and have a heart to heart. My husband is wise beyond his years. At some point during our conversation, it hit me. Life is not about pursuing the American Dream. While others around me are building their earthly homes, I am at peace knowing that each I step on earth is building my real home - my eternal home. I may not have a lot of nice stuff - we live in an apartment, we drive old cars, our couch was free from a friend of a friend and has a few holes in it - but I have great treasure in Heaven. Now I think about things and believe that people have reason to envy me! I'm not settling on this earth. I have something so much better in store. Maybe that's one reason why Jesus tells us that it is harder for the rich to get to heaven. They have settled on earth. They have stored their treasures here and feel perfectly content with this life and the treasures that they have. But for those of us who are storing our treasures in heaven, we have no reason to hold on to this earth. Sometimes when I'm having a really tough day, I find myself thinking "I can't wait to go home." And then I realize that I am at home. The first time I noticed that I did this, I was a bit disturbed. Now I understand. Even my "home" isn't really my home. My home is in heaven, and I can't wait to get there!
Tuesday, April 7, 2009
Long Time No See
So, it has seriously been forever. I have decided that it is time to update the blog! There have not been any major events as of late, but there has been a lot going on.
Last month (March 6-7), I got a chance to go to Louisville, KY to visit one of my good friends Tarah. She got engaged a few months ago, and I had not seen her since this exciting development! Nor had I met her fiance. So I trekked over to Nashville and met up with my college girl friends to take a road trip to Louisville. I had such a great time... it has been forever since I got to have a girls' weekend. Daniel (Tarah's fiance) was absolutely wonderful - so she got my official approval over the weekend. We stayed up until about 2AM (I didn't even stay up that late in college), just talking, goofing off and having an all-around good time. Saturday, we got up and went to Daniel's apartment to find that he had fixed us a big breakfast. Then we headed over to downtown Louisville to spend the rest of the day. We got to visit the Louisville Slugger Factory and then played Catch Phrase (a must at all get-togethers) by the river. The weather was perfect and the company was perfect. Here are some pictures.
Fast forward a few weeks. Last week I went on a retreat with work (I work for the Adoption Support Center - a ministry of Agape). We spent Wednesday through Friday at Fall Creek Falls. I had never been, but was so excited. I enjoy hiking and all things outdoors. We decided to leave on Tuesday so we could stop in Nashville for lunch and take our time getting there. We decided to have lunch at Buca de Bepo in Cool Springs... YUM! It was quite interesting ordering for 15 but we managed and it all went on Agape's tab....so, thanks Agape! After getting our fill of pasta, we decided to hit the road again and move on to middle Tennessee. Our car got to about Mount Juliet when we had to turn around. We got a call from one of the other cars in our caravan. They had been badly rear-ended on the interstate. The back windshield busted and hit someone in the head. Everyone seemed fine but they needed to go to the hospital to get checked out. So, the rest of us tried to entertain ourselves in the emergency room for about 4 hours. We were finally cleared and all reported to be in good shape. We got some pain medication for the soreness that was sure to follow and headed on the the Falls. It was beautiful. We only got to hike one day (it rained the other full day that we were there), but it was great. We hiked to a lookout over the gorge and had a devotional. All-in-all it turned out to be pretty decent considering it was a work trip!
Saturday, February 28, 2009
50 is the New 30
A few weeks ago, my mom turned 50. Daddy was going to be out of the country during this momentous occasion, so we had to find an EXTREME way to celebrate. Dad and I (along with help from friends) came up with the idea of a spa weekend. Now, I wanted to go to one of those really amazing spa resorts in Arizona or California, but we just couldn't shell out $2000 a day. So we decided to stay close and settled for Hot Springs, AR. I know what you're thinking - "Arkansas?" Well, history will tell you that Hot Springs was the location for the first natural spring "spas." Daddy booked us a room at the Arlington Resort that included a bath and spa package. Don't worry, I'll get to the bath part.
Monday, February 16, 2009
The Obligatory 25
1. I grew up in Bombay (Mumbai), India and spoke 2 languages other than English - Hindi and
Gujarati. Now I don't even speak English all that well.
2. My greatest ambition in life is to be a mom.
3. I LOVE big dogs. Michael and I have a 7 month old harlequin great dane named Annie. One
day soon, she will be taller than me and weigh more than me. She is on track to get up to 130
lbs - small for her breed.
4. I am on a mission team with Michael and two other couples. The 5 of them are some of the
funniest, most genuine, most wonderful people that I know and are quickly becoming my
family
5. I am a daddy's girl, but my mom is my hero and my best friend.
6. I'm a hopeless romantic. I believed in fairy tales until I got my heart broken in college.
When Michael and I started dating, I became a believer again.
7. I love to read - almost to a fault. It is my escape (and evidently I like to escape a lot). Jane
Austen is my favorite (see #6)
8. Going along w/ #7, I have always dreamed of having my own "library" - think the beast's
library in Beauty and the Beast.
9. If I'm in the U.S. too long, I start going stir-crazy. I prefer to leave the States at least once
a year. Someday, I hope to leave indefinitely
10. I was abducted once during my junior year of college. I was hog-tied with zip cords, had my
face smeared with toothpaste, was forced to eat honey buns, pooted on, smacked in the butt
(not gonna mention names!!), hosed down, thrown in the back of a truck, and left for dead
behind a huge air-conditioning unit. I think all this was filmed, but I've never seen it... I miss
those guys!
11. One of my life's goals is to see the 7 wonders of the medieval world and the 7 new wonders.
I have already been to 2 (the Taj Mahal and the Colosseum), but only count the Taj because
I was too young to remember the Colosseum.
12. I am bi-cultural - I identify with two cultures.
13. Mother Teresa is my hero (along w/ my mom)
14. I love Texas Longhorns football! It used to be an obsession (I knew the depth chart thru the
3rd and 4th string) but now I have it under control... sort of.
15. I harmonize with the radio. And I used to stand on top of my dresser and sing Celine Dion in
front of the mirror (I would also take breaks to say, "Ladies and Gentlemen, the Makin
Music Showband!")
16. I was born in the middle of a "blizzard." Probably the only one Lubbock, TX has ever had.
17. My first passport (I think I've had 4) picture was taken when I was 1 day old
18. I grew up in a city of 16 million people. It was loud 24 hours a day. Now I can't sleep if it's
too quiet. I owe Ashley HUGE for the fan she got me as a wedding present that I fall asleep
to every night.
19. My first life's goal (that I made when I was like 5) was accomplished a few years ago when I
met Ozzie Smith and got an autographed baseball.
20. I'm an introvert. That's why I only answer my phone if it's my mom, dad or Michael.
21. I was once sued for $50,000. Luckily (some sarcasm intended), it settled for $15,000.
22. I am an amazing driver. (Although, Jill can attest to the fact that this has not ALWAYS been
the case!) I have never gotten a ticket. I've only been pulled over once, and didn't get a
ticket because, when the officer asked for my registration, I asked him what it looked like.
23. I once worked at a library. I was a librarian's assistant. Everyone thought I was a nerd, but
it continues to be the greatest job I've ever had.
24. I love my brother, but I always wanted a sister. Now I have 2! One is the best sister-in-law
(to-be) ever! The other is my cousin who now lives with my parents whom I consider to
be my sister.
25. The Lord is my light and my salvation... The Lord is the stronghold of my life. (Psalm 27:1)
The Lord my God is in my midst, a mighty one who will save; he will rejoice over me with
gladness, he will quiet me by his love; he will exult over me with loud singing (Zeph. 3:17)
Friday, February 6, 2009
Tomato Jello
Yes... I succumbed. There was too much pressure - I was basically forced to start a blog. But I must say I am kindof having fun with this :)
So, today I went to a lunch that our work board provided for all of us at the office. It was a cute, kind of girly place. The kind of place with fancy food in small portions that makes me feel a lot more womanly and mature than I actually am. As I was perusing the menu, I noticed a term I was unfamiliar with. Did you know there is such a thing as tomato jello? It's true... I would not lie to you. They try to hide its true identity behind a fancy name: Tomato Aspic. But, "that which we call a rose...," ya know? Let's call it what it really is, people! It's TOMATO JELLO. And yes, I believe it IS as disgusting as it sounds. And I thought Avocado Milkshakes were the weirdest thing I'd ever tried!